Time’s Up for Men to Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment & Assault
Male bystanders must break silence…
Let’s face it men: more of us need to “man-up” by proactively helping to end the scourge of sexual harassment and assault in 2018. Any real cultural shift entails a real mind shift by males.
Men should help maintain and build upon the momentum of the #MeToo movement and Hollywood’s #TimesUp initiative, both of which are empowering women to break their silence about sexual harassment and assault. More men should join women in making their voices heard, rather than being silent bystanders.
That’s because silence by men who witness sexual harassment or assault is arguably akin to complicity. Therefore, men of good conscience should not allow themselves to be unwitting accomplices to male monsters who prey on women and girls.
In short, more men must stop being part of this perennial problem and start being part of the solution.
This means standing up and speaking out to support female victims who are brave enough to come forward and make their voices heard. This also means swiftly shaming and punishing male perpetrators for their despicable deeds.
It’s outrageous that in today’s modern 21st century workplace and society there are men who regularly treat women as second class citizens simply based on their sex. Unfortunately, some men unconscionably or unconsciously view sexual harassment as nothing more than a laughing matter. But there’s nothing funny about it.
Now it’s time for more men to follow in the footsteps of Time’s “Silence Breakers” by breaking their own silence about right and wrong.
One Male Silence Breaker
Terry Crews is a male actor in Hollywood who was one the few men in his industry to initially support women in the crusade to end sexual harassment. Time included him among the “Silence Breakers” as Person of the Year 2017. Part of his motivation was allegedly being sexually harassed himself.
According to Time, “Crews realized that men had a responsibility to lend credence and support to these women’s claims. Almost without thinking through the consequences, Crews tweeted out his own story; in his viral series of tweets, he became one of the first men to join the chorus of women speaking out about harassment.”
Time writes that Crews clearly understood why “it’s imperative that men advocate for women’s rights.”
Men are fathers, sons and brothers of women and girls. As such, we have an inherent social and moral responsibility to forcefully address this issue. How? By sending an unequivocal message to other men that sexual harassment and assault will no longer be tolerated, period!
Crews told Time: “I was really angry because these women were being discounted. These women were being discarded. Their pain was just — it was nothing…these women know they weren’t alone.”
Crews deserves accolades for his bold and beneficial actions. Now, more men must be put on notice that sexual harassment will not go unnoticed. This is especially significant considering that decades of voluntary employer training, policies and procedures to prevent workplace sexual harassment have too often proven ineffective.
Crews says: “Men need to hold other men accountable. I came up in the cult of masculinity, in football and the sports world and entertainment.” He continued…
“You’re in places and guys are saying the wildest things. People need to be called on that. You need to be held accountable for the things you say, the things you do.”
Sexual Harassment at Work
Let’s be clear about what constitutes unlawful sexual harassment in the workplace. The U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) states:
- “Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Title VII applies to employers with 15 or more employees, including state and local governments. It also applies to employment agencies and to labor organizations, as well as to the federal government.”
- “Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitute sexual harassment when this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual’s work performance, or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work environment.”
- “Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances, including but not limited to the following: The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex. The harasser can be the victim’s supervisor, an agent of the employer, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or a non-employee. The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct.”
- “Unlawful sexual harassment may occur without economic injury to or discharge of the victim. The harasser’s conduct must be unwelcome. It is helpful for the victim to inform the harasser directly that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. The victim should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available.”
All men need to be more mindful about the sexual harassment and assault epidemic and “man-up” to end it. Again, this means speaking out both publicly and behind the scenes to other men, particularly those prone to committing such shameful behavior which ultimately gives all men a bad name and reputation.
Therefore, men of good conscience and goodwill should stop staying silent. Rather, more men should vociferously shame perpetrators of sexual harassment and assault — and more employers should take stronger actions to proactively prevent hostile environments for working women.
Those men who need to speak out most include CEOs and public figures of all industries. It’s imperative that more men lead by example.
Male leaders in corporate America, government, media and entertainment should set the tone from the top-down. In fact, it’s long overdue for more men to take responsibility by standing in allegiance with women.
Everyone should know that violating the statutory rights of women in the workplace or any other place will no longer be tolerated under any circumstances.
Moreover, “Zero Tolerance” policies in the workplace need to be more than just empty rhetoric. It’s not enough for HR officials and mid-level management to highlight employee handbooks periodically, if at all, and then put those written policies and procedures on a shelf to gather dust.
Employment policies to prevent sexual harassment need to be revised and reiterated, as well as buttressed by training workers and managers.
But neither public nor private sector employers alone can be counted on to end this persistent problem, as history has shown. That’s why more “ordinary Joes” should send the following three-point message to their male co-workers, colleagues, subordinates, friends and family:
1) Sexual harassment and assault are cowardly and reprehensible acts.
2) Any man who sexually violates the rights of women will be swiftly called out, ostracized and humiliated in public by their male colleagues.
3) Lewd and illegal sexual actions against women will no longer be condoned or ignored — and neither will retaliation by casting blame on female victims.
Men must recall that victims of sexual harassment and assault are our wives, mothers, daughters and sisters. Further, it must be understood that unwanted sexual advances toward women should never be justified with cowardly excuses for boorish behavior, such as:
- It’s just lurid “locker room” conduct/talk,
- It’s just an immature attitude of horseplay, or
- It’s just a juvenile “boys will be boys” mentality.
Any real cultural shift to end sexual harassment and assault entails a real mind shift among more men.
Any long-lasting cultural change means it must become embedded within the norms, values and moral fabric of society that sexual harassment and assault are not only unlawful, but unseemly and un-American.
Men must refrain from crossing the vivid line at work and society separating conduct which is acceptable toward women versus behavior which is sordid and salacious. Moreover, men who intentionally cross the legal boundaries prohibiting sexual harassment and assault should always be held accountable.
Men should not blame victims of sexual harassment and assault for standing up and speaking out to assert their legal rights. Rather, more men of goodwill must castigate and report perpetrators of such abhorrent behavior.
Women deserve no less.
You might also like…
- Time cover story on the “Silence Breakers” as Person of the Year 2017
- Time’s full interview with male actor Terry Crews
- EEOC information about sexual harassment